One thing I am tired seeing in videos is black women being attacked and black men standing around watching. I’m not suggesting getting involved in a fight or hurting anyone, just protect her. This time that we live in of videotaping instead of intervening literally turns my stomach:
He said I got it, I’m recording it. Really? How about you put the phone down and get those grown men off of her. I just feel like when it’s black woman people observe and if it were a woman of any other ethnicity someone, anyone would have intervened.
In a recent interview, Janelle Monáe has answer for the foolishness, withhold sex. The same premise Spike Lee suggested in Chi-raq, was he on to something:
“Until every man is fighting for our rights, we should consider stopping having sex. I love men. But evil men? I will not tolerate that. You don’t deserve to be in my presence. If you’re going to own this world and this is how you’re going to rule this world, I am not going to contribute anymore until you change it,” she tells the mag. “We have to realize our power and our magic. Because I am all about black-girl magic, even though I’m standing with all women.”
Since Janelle Monáe stepped on the scene, she has had no problem with standing out and being different. She has unintentionally redefined beauty and sexy for all. Along with her stands on withholding sex she’s also encouraging women to feel free and comfortable to be themselves:
“It is important to redefine what sexy is. To redefine style… It is important for women to be [in control], especially when gender norms and conformity are pushed upon us. Women automatically are told that this is how you should look. This is how you should get a man…You need to fit into all these boxes to be accepted. I don’t subscribe to that way of thinking. I don’t think we all have to take the same coordinates to reach the same destination. I believe in embracing what makes you unique even if it makes others uncomfortable. I have learned there is power in saying no. I have agency. I get to decide.”
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